from Codependent No More by Melody Beattie:
The people who look the most beautiful are the same as us. The only difference is they’re telling themselves they look good, and they’re letting themselves shine through. The people who say the most profound, intelligent, or witty things are the same as us. They’re letting go, being who they are. The people who appear the most confident and relaxed are no different from us. They’ve pushed themselves through fearful situations and told themselves they could make it. The people who are successful are the same as us. They’ve gone ahead and developed their gifts and talents, and set goals for themselves. We’re even the same as the people on television: our heroes, our idols. We’re all working with approximately the same material — humanity. It’s how we feel about ourselves that makes the difference. It’s what we tell ourselves that makes the difference.